Embrace the festive chaos

The Christmas holiday season is upon us, and with it comes the whirlwind of shopping, decorating, and hosting. While everyone is busy wrapping presents and dreaming of sugarplum fairies, if you’re experiencing menopause, the festive chaos can transform into a storm of hot flashes and panic attacks. But fear not! Here are some tips to help you navigate the hustle and bustle with ease, ensuring you enjoy this magical time of year.

Plan ahead for present picking

Nothing ramps up anxiety quite like rushing through crowded stores, hunting for the “perfect” gift. Instead, try thinking outside the shopping mall. Take advantage of Christmas markets for unique finds, or get hands-on yourself—craft your own treats, stocking fillers, or decorations. Even better, invite an artisan into your home for a demonstration of Christmas decoration making, and turn it into a fun gathering with friends. These experiences are often more memorable—and less stressful—than store-bought gifts.

If you still need to shop, create a shortlist of people and a few gift ideas for each, and let online shopping do the heavy lifting. You can curl up on the couch with a hot chocolate or a glass of wine while ticking off your list. Can’t find the perfect gift? A heartfelt card works beautifully—add a “get out of jail free” idea like an invitation to lunch in the new year, a gallery visit, or coffee and cocktails. Not every gift needs a bow! If you want some “me-time,” channel your creativity into fun card ideas for the new year—something to look forward to in 2026 for both you and the recipient.

Set a budget and stick to it

Christmas shopping can really stretch your budget—and stress can make menopause symptoms worse. Take a moment to plan a budget before hitting the shops, browsing online, or exploring Christmas markets. Tracking your spending helps avoid financial panic and lets you focus on what really matters: thoughtful, imaginative gifts that don’t break the bank.

There are so many free or low-cost experiences you can give! In London, many museums and galleries are open over the holidays and free to visit, often with cafés serving gorgeous cakes and winter salads. Gift an outing with a beautifully written card—lunch or afternoon tea included—and you’ve got a present that creates memories, not clutter.

Early January Eurostar flash sales can be amazing, with tickets from £29 each way on select dates. A day trip to Europe? Now that’s a gift anyone would love!

And don’t forget nature: take a stroll in the woods to gather holly, mistletoe, and berries. Add a few rings from your local florist or craft store, and craft homemade wreaths or Christmas decorations for friends’ tables and trees. Handmade, heartfelt, and festive—these gifts are guaranteed to delight.

Avoid the crowds

The last thing you need while navigating menopause is crowded car parks and endless queues. If possible, shop early in the morning or during late-night hours when stores are quieter—less noise, less rush, more calm.

For a more relaxed experience, explore local villages and small businesses. The atmosphere is often calmer, and the staff are happy to help you find the perfect gift. Many towns also host festive evening shopping events—check your local newsletter, notice board, or online to see when they take place. Bonus: your purchases often come with free seasonal treats—shopping and indulgence in one!

Ask for help

If hosting duties start to feel overwhelming, take charge by delegating! Set up a ‘potluck’ Christmas where each guest brings a dish—less pressure for you, more time to enjoy the festivities. Asking for help isn’t a weakness; it’s a power move. The holidays are all about community, after all.

I personally rely on my slow cookers to handle mulled wine, Christmas pudding, Coca-Cola ham, red cabbage, and more. This way, I’m not chained to the hob or oven and can focus on myself and my guests. Even the turkey crown and gravy can be slow-cooked—if you don’t have one yet, I can’t recommend them enough!

At the end of the day, Christmas is about connection, not perfection. If shopping, cooking, or the festive frenzy feels like too much, prioritise yourself. Self-care boosts your mood and lifts those dopamine levels. Your close family will understand—and if not, there’s always that hidden dark chocolate, a good Netflix film, and a cozy duvet to make your Christmas merry in your own way.