When the new year feels grey: rekindling love inside and out

Stepping into a new year can sometimes feel… flat. The skies are grey, the days are short, and even if the calendar promises a fresh start, the spark of love—both for others and yourself—can feel like it’s flickering out. Add menopause into the mix, and suddenly that inner cheer feels harder to find.

This is where the love hormone oxytocin comes in. Known for promoting connection, affection, and overall well-being, oxytocin can help light up your mood when everything feels a little dim. You don’t need hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to tap into it—small, joyful actions can give your oxytocin levels a gentle boost, helping you feel closer, happier, and more alive.

Simple ways to boost oxytocin and feel the love again

• Play with pets
  Snuggles, cuddles, or a playful romp with your furry friend can lift your spirits and flood your brain with oxytocin.

• Hold hands or hug loved ones
  Physical touch, even for a few seconds, sparks connection and can make you feel grounded and cherished.

• Share meals together
  Laughter and conversation around the table are small but mighty ways to nurture closeness—and your oxytocin.

• Dance like nobody’s watching
  Turn up your favourite tunes and shake off the January blues. Dancing releases endorphins and strengthens your sense of joy and connection.

• Give kindness freely
  Compliments, thoughtful notes, or small gestures of care create ripples of love that boost both your mood and theirs.

• Engage in meaningful conversations
  Deep chats with friends or loved ones help you feel seen, heard, and connected—exactly what oxytocin loves.

Even when the weather is grey and your mood feels heavy, nurturing these small, loving moments can reignite your inner spark. Menopause might be a season of change, but it can also be a season of rediscovering connection, joy, and the warmth of oxytocin.